I have been interested in the talk-radio phenomenon for some time. Both the motivations of the callers and the personalities of the talk-show hosts intrigue me. Many months ago, I came across Don Wade and Roma while surfing the AM stations. They host an early morning program on WLS-AM 890 from 5 to 9am, bringing divergent views on nearly every subject to the airwaves. The pair, however, blend their differences into an enjoyable program. I wrote to Roma requesting an interview and found her very accommodating. When I could keep her in "interview mode," I discovered an intensely engaging and thoughtful person. But this vivacious personality repeatedly turned the tables on me, wanting to know how I felt about a particular issue.

roma1.jpg (17220 bytes) Al: Tell me how you got into radio.
Roma: Actually, I was temporarily producing Don's show. Occasionally, you could hear my voice off-mic. So John Gehron suggested that Don use me on his show. So, I came by radio by accident and very reluctantly. Serendipity again! Radio is not my calling, and I never even thought that I would be interested in it.

Al: I read WLS's home page on the Internet, and it mentioned that you started out as a teacher.
Roma:That's right. I taught English literature and creative writing at a university, a community college, high school and elementary school, plus gifted kids in an elementary school in Puget Sound. However, high school teaching is the best. Those kids were so needy. They just wanted some attention. They desperately wanted to find someone who cared about them and would congregate at my desk before and after school. I especially like teaching writing. Why do people want to write?

Al: I think those in the arts: writers, painters, singers--try to put meaning into their own personal madness. At least for me, I can look at my writing over the past decade and see by the number of articles that I have written whether I was happy or depressed. The greater the depression--the greater the number of writings. Writing for me is my attempt to put perimeters on chaos.

Roma: That's exactly my theory. My favorite writing students were the most troubled; they were the ones that could write most tellingly. I've always wanted to be a writer, but I think that I've been too damn happy so far in life.

roma2.jpg (16671 bytes) Al: How did you make the shift from teaching to radio?
Roma: I did a lot of things in between--like weaving shrimp pots for Alaskan fishermen, waiting tables and remodeling houses. More serendipity!

Al: I also read of your varied background and many interests. What is it that makes Roma run?
Roma: What do you mean? Getting up at midnight to start my day?

Al: Yes, but also the emotional energy necessary to do all that you do.
Roma: Life is an adventure, an endless adventure. I saw something in my mother who happens to be ninety-years old. She is a brilliant, vivacious university mathematics professor and Baptist pastor's wife. On our on vacation this past year on Cape Cod, I came into her bedroom one morning, and she was sitting on the side of the bed kicking her feet with excitement. She gets up every day happy and discovers delight in everyday things. I watched her there and thought, "Boy that's where I get it." I get up every morning thrilled by the possibilities that the new day might offer up. So far in this lifetime, I have been blessed with so many serendipitous experiences. Everyday is an adventure.

This past Christmas, my mother visited me. I was writing thank-you notes at sunrise one morning back in the corner of my living room. As my mother came into the room, she was just fascinated by the way the light played with each little crystal piece that hang in the window. She had no idea that I was there watching as she went from one sparkling piece to the next, like a little kid. Can you imagine at ninety jumping out of bed and enjoying the beauty of reflected light? I thank God for giving me those kinds of genes.

roma3.jpg (20163 bytes) Al: I heard Gene Siskel say that when he interviews someone, he asks what that person's favorite movie is. He thinks that he can get to know the person better because the movie answer may give a more accurate picture of the person than a direct question. So, what is your favorite movie?
Roma: That's a hard question--I have so many. I don't think I have just one favorite.

Al: What is your favorite book?
Roma: Now, that's an easy question. The Red Book, which began as a blank book that I pasted things in or write my own thoughts. The book has become file-cabinets of ideas. We are inspired by so many people along life's way.

Al: What about a favorite quotation?

Roma: There is one framed on my office called The Stations by Robert Hastings. I've used in The Red Book year after year because the message is so important. We shouldn't be looking for the destination--graduation, marriage, promotion, a Mercedes--because the final destination ultimately is death. Instead, savor all the things that we encounter along the way. Life is always offering up opportunities if we live it in the present, moment by moment. Serendipity should always be our guide in life or we will find ourselves on our death bed with a list of regrets.

roma4.jpg (20163 bytes) Al: Tell me about the production of your show. When does most of the research and work get done?
Roma: Most of the research is done in the morning of the show, because nearly everything breaks during the night. I have three different armoires filled with TVs, VCRs, and dubbing equipment. The machines are all programmed to record while I'm asleep. I record things like Nightline and the late night comics. This allows me to fast-forward through life. My day starts at midnight. By 12:15am, with one espresso in me, I am watching all the various things that have been recorded. In the meantime, Don is doing the same thing. By 2:00am, our producer wakes up and starts going through the Internet. At 2:40am I get a shower and dress, so I can get to the bus stop at 2:59. The bus arrives about 3:03. Now, I don't have my face on when I get on the bus. I put my face on while on the ride to the studio. It is always interesting and funny because you are with late-night revelers, winos, and homeless people who watch me get fixed up. The bus driver and the other riders give me all sorts of ideas. I love interacting with all the characters that ride the bus early in the morning. On holidays, I often bring them gifts, Christmas cookies, or candies. Riding a bus is such a joy, I haven't owned a car for nearly ten years. Without a car, you really stay in touch with the city.

roma5.jpg (23412 bytes) Al: How long do you have to get your face on, interact with the riders, and get to the studio?
Roma: I get down here by 3:15 or 3:20 at the latest--about fifteen minutes.

Al: Then what do you do?
Roma: Don and I read six newspapers every morning in preparation for the show. These are all hands on papers where we actually cut, clip, mark, and then copy. Then the technical-support person dubs all the things that we recorded several hours before. Our producer searches for the latest editorials and news items off the Internet.

It's crazy around here. By 4:00am it's really cranking. Then we line up the program. I'm the choreographer, setting up the chronology for issues. We try to do hard, soft, hard, soft, alternating the half-hour segments so that when we have something serious, the next piece tends to be light or funny. We try to give the items a balance. The show is heavily news oriented so we try to give our listeners a handle to look at news events and a sense of humor to enjoy them.

Al: Was there a conscious attempt to balance you and Don? He holds very strong beliefs--especially when it comes to politics. You seem much more to the middle of the road. He tends toward the strident, and you are more nurturing. Was this intentional?

Roma: No, not at all. I really didn't know very much about his political views. We were together originally not on talk-radio but as partners on a rock-n-roil program. Off the air, Don is extremely quiet. At a party, you wouldn't know when he left because he does leave. Off the air, I'm the loquacious one, but I'm just the opposite on the air. Don looks at things as cut and dried, black and white, right and wrong; I tend to see both sides of the issue. It is just our natures, and it is a good balance for the show.

Al: How did you and Don evolve from disc jockeys to talk-radio hosts?

Roma: Well, we did more playing around on the air than we did playing records. It was then that the readings from The Red Book started. Don entertained listeners with his imaginary characters: Peter Suckwell, General Nuisance and his aide, Private Parts, Mother Goose Grease, and Sheriff C. W. Turnipseedall of whom lived in his head. Neither one of us knew that we could do talk-radio. We just evolved into it. Then the station format followed our lead.

roma6.jpg (23412 bytes) Al: One further question about the Don Wade and Roma Show: how do you handle all the conflict and strongly held opinions of the listeners or Don? You put yourself on the line for hours--everyday. Doesn't the buffeting of opposing opinions wear on you?
Roma: Not ordinarily. People give you things all the time, but you don't have to accept their gifts--their opinions. You can ponder their opinions, but you don't have to accept or defend anything. It is only if you attach your ego to that opposing opinion. If you are just hearing it, you aren't obligated to accept it.

Al: You can blow off someone who gets really very angry with you without it leaving any residual gunk with you after they hang up?

Roma: Our producers marvel at this ability. They say my emotions rarely get hooked. However, if the listener gets in there and snags my ego, then I respond by verbally grabbing them by the collar and telling them what I think. That always surprises people because it rarely happens. If my ego doesn't get hooked, then differing opinions don't bother me at all. Does that make any sense?

roma7.jpg (18364 bytes) Al: I understand what you are saying about getting your ego enmeshed in a listener's issue. However, what about differing opinions between you and Don? How do you handle an off-the-air relationship with someone with whom you often differ on the air? And you seem to be able to handle disagreement everyday for hours. Isn't that emotionally tiring? I can see how you can blow-off some opinionated listener. But how do you deal with the divergent opinions of someone close to you?
Roma: That's a good question. It has to do with the values and balance that each of us provides for the other. Maybe, it is because of the wonderful role models that my parents were. My father was a real dynamo and a Baptist preacher. He was really strong, really opinionated, and a really good person. My mother was brilliant and sensitive, and she adored my father. It only hit the fan when he would cross over into her territory, and it did on occasion--but not often. They both respected each other. He worshipped the ground that she walked on. She is brilliant and beautiful, and he didn't know why she married him. She felt the same way about him. You need the other person to form a whole. The Bible is right--you become one. They were completely separate entities, yet they formed a whole. They could be who they were because of the other person. It gives you the freedom to be who you are. They were a great team.

In the same way, being with Don gives me the freedom to be me. When I first met Don, I didn't know that he was a political conservative. I used to march and protest. "Peace." "No more war." When I first met Don, he had a long ponytail. I didn't know anything about his politics, but I did know that he is a good, good person.

Al: He seems to get hooked on political issues.

Roma: I tell him that he is getting to believe this Republican/Democratic thing too deeply. All this political stuff is unreal. He is letting something unreal get to him. It's like time. I don't believe in time either--I don't even wear a watch. Time is a man-made construct. I don't have a computer either. Computers are the devil. The Unabomber is right. The computer will consume you. I don't have enough time in the day. Add a computer to my day and where would I find the time? I went to bed last night at 7:34pm and got up at midnight. That's not enough--four hours and twenty-six minutes of sleep. What time I have, I want to spend it with my Red Book, thoughts, friends, family, plus living and loving creatively--making a difference in the lives I touch.

Al: What is the next stage of your evolution in personal growth?

Roma: I love carpentry, making furniture, or gutting a house. I also want to sculpt. I want to build a structure over-looking Puget Sound. From there, I would like to travel around the world, teach yoga, and write. I've learned a lot from talk-radio. It has been like teaching. You have a new lesson plan everyday. But, I am getting itchy feet. I can feel it coming. I can feel the momentum building. I love hearing the voice that swirls around within me. It's like getting a chocolate urge, only far more significant, more spiritual. It's like waking up in the middle of the night hearing the voice whispering, "Roma, Roma, it's time."

Al: You sound like Kostner in Field of Dreams. Both of you hear the voice. Kostner in a cornfield and Roma in the canyons of Chicago.

Roma: Right. Life is inspiration. I love exploring unknown territory.

Al: After you day in the sun is over and you breathe your last, how do you want to be remembered?

Roma: Epitaph: Love was her life's mission, and love never dies.

roma9.jpg (22209 bytes) Al: What is death?
Roma: I think that in death my energy is recycled. We come from the Source--that I am God and you are God. When we really meet, we see God in each other. All of our flaws and needs are just distractions and perhaps tools to educate us. God is love; we are God; so we are love.

Al: So, when you die, you will go back the Source and start again?
Roma: Right, in whatever form. I don't know what forms there are in the universe. I don't know whether it will be corporeal or not. If you watch someone die, the body is just lying there, but that energy is not in there anymore. That spirit did not die. The body is merely a cast-off garment. Spirit is.

Al: Henry Ward Beecher, the great Abolitionist of the last century, said as he died, "And now comes the mystery." When I die, I think that who I am is merged into the essence of God. This may sound Eastern, but I think that theology is also in Christianity.

Roma: You reunite with It, God, the One.

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