Another What’s It All About Alfie Essay
Why Are Some So Macho?

To set the stage for this critically important essay, I want you to watch the ending of the movie Alfie. And ponder.

This article is essentially something that mankind must address. And that isn’t a hyperbolic comment. Trust me. Allow me to get all my cards on the table with a litany of illustrations.

1. I have written many articles about Ti Ti when we first met. She was nine years old and wanted to play Scrabble with me. We had fun as we laughed and giggled during the game. We both had fun, but Ti Ti also wanted to win. When she added up the score, her eyes lit up as she uttered, “I won. I knew that I could beat you.” My retort was immediate. I stuck my finger into her face and sternly said, “Young lady, don’t you ever forget it. You beat me in your country at my game and in my language.” That interplay was when Ti Ti was a youngster. She didn’t realize it, but Ti Ti was beginning to process the issue of sexism.

2. Years later, Ti Ti took her first college class, which was an online class. It also happened to be the last class ending over two decades of teaching. She and two other female students aced the class...as in 100%.

3. In the years between Scrabble and the online class, Ti Ti grasps that women in her country or anywhere else aren’t viewed by many men as equals. She wrote about being the first female to be asked to join Gusto’s Robotic Club.

4. Several years ago, she wrote this essay, Furthering My Education...Under Water, which was about her learning SCUBA diving.

5. This is a photo of the successful SCUBA diving students. What do you see in this picture?

Diving

This was a part of Ti Ti’s posting. “As we wrapped up the training, there were four of us left – three boys and myself. It was a diverse group, and we all shared a common enthusiasm for the underwater world...The training was not only educational but also incredibly fun. I made new friends and created lasting memories. Being the only girl among the participants, I felt a strong sense of empowerment and camaraderie.”

6. This photo is of her macho grandfather wrestling with a killer shark. I’m pretty sure that it was a shark. I sent Ti Ti this photo to impress her, even though I am not a certified SCUBA diver.

Dolphin

That was the backstory. The issue of this article relates to sexism, which is doing well in Ti Ti’s country of Myanmar, and it is also doing well in the world, including America. Sexism can be seen in all areas of society—politics, religions, and academia.

Name a religion that is not sexist. Most deities are male. Males control the majority of individual religious faiths. The clergy are still overwhelmingly male. I was born in 1943. Before then, there were only a few dozen women ordained in America. It wasn’t until the last half of the 20th century that ordaining women became more common. Nonetheless, the percentage of women clergy in all religious faiths is less than 21% of all clergy in the States. As for salary, males receive higher salaries than women.

So, males dominate females. Why? I can think of only two reasons. One option is that men are smarter and superior to the weaker sex. The other is that men fear women, which can be traced back to the time of our evolution, 100,000-200,000 years ago.

Let’s briefly compare men vs. women. The maturity of the female brain occurs sometime between the ages of 20-25, compared to 24-27 for males. Actually, some male brains never fully develop.

The myelination and gray area can give females an advantage of up to two years of a head start. The cerebral volume of the brain is reached by females around 10 years of age and by males around the age of 14.

Why do men diss women? One major reason is the male inferiority complex. Males are not the dominant sex. Look at any of the actuarial tables in the world. Women outlive females by 8-10 years.

More threatening than longevity is the fact that women possess the god-like ability that males don't have...to create and nourish life. The retort of macho men is that men impregnate females. That is true, and it takes a couple of minutes at best. Compared to nine months of pregnancy, caring for and nourishing the child until the child can live independently.

Bryan Sykes, who was the Professor of Human Genetics at Oxford, asserts that in 125k years, males will die off due to their male Y chromosome. In Adam’s Curse, Sykes believes that males won't be around very much longer.

In the meantime, women are catching up with sexist men. I have seen in my life that there are more women in medical schools than men. In dentistry, women make up 40% of dentists and 65% of orthodontists.

In academia, the Ivy League schools have a majority of women presidents. Across all colleges and universities, women make up a third of the presidents. Interestingly, the college from which I graduated has had two female presidents after I graduated in the mid- 60s. My dermatologist, dentist, and primary care physician are females.

As Bob Dylan wrote, The Times They Are A-Changin.’

Dylan ends his song with these four lines for all males.

The order is rapidly fadin'
And the first one now
Will later be last
For the times they are a-changin'

This brings me to the Epstein files. Again, there are two groups. The first group consists of young teenagers or women in their late teens and their twenties. They want an accounting of being raped and other sexual misconduct. For decades, no one listened to them. Why? The answer is that men saw them as sex objects; after all, they aren’t equal to men.

The second group is the molesters, all men, except for Ghislaine Maxwell, who ran Epstein’s business of sex trafficking. Trump cares about protecting himself by protecting other men. As for the U.S. Deputy Attorney General Todd Blanche, he met with convicted sex trafficker Maxwell in Tallahassee, Florida. That meeting resulted in Maxwell being sent to a minimum-security Federal Prison in Bryan, TX, which is often called “Club Fed.”

Blanche said that Maxwell “had been in prison for many, many years, and she had offered to speak on many, many occasions. And she was never given that opportunity.” Well, she could have testified in the court that found her guilty of sex trafficking.

Blanch defended Trump in his New York hush money case, in which Trump was convicted of 34 felony counts related to falsifying business records. Trump didn’t testify in court, but listen to him discussing sex.



These cartoons would be funny if they weren’t true.